How Did a Threesome Affect Your Relationship?
As a bisexual, I do not want to be one of those people who get married and stays in the closet their entire life. Maybe I guess I would need to date someone who I feel safe that I can open up to and tell them what they think about lgbtq+ issues and go through more discussions, even though I'm scared I'll be judged and hated, even though I'm scared to disappoint my family. So when my girlfriend asked me if I wanted to try a threesome because it was her biggest sexual fantasy. I readily agreed.
Having a threesome doesn't mean she doesn't love you. Honest and open communication is paramount to a successful and healthy relationship. Your girlfriend loves and trusts you so much that she can tell you her fantasies. I recommend choosing to have a meaningful conversation with your girlfriend about how her news made you feel and what you would like to do going forward. Of course, you are free to choose to say "No, I don't want to have a threesome", then communicate to him all the reasons why you don't want to, if she really loves you, she won't force you to do anything you don't want to do.
All other things being equal, yes, the chance of having a threesome is probably higher when a straight person is dating a bisexual person than when they're dating another straight person. It does not mean all or even most bisexual people like threesomes. We also did not advocate for every bisexual friend to experience the fun of a threesome. It just means a threesome is more likely when you and your partner are both attracted to men or women.
Sure, Not every bisexual friend likes a threesome relationship. Someone's sexuality has nothing to do with what type of person they are. Additionally, just because they were bisexual doesn't mean they would not be interested in a monogamous relationship. Just because someone is bisexual doesn't mean they wouldn't be faithful to one person if that is what they agreed to as a couple. Without some type of baselines, guidelines, agreements, or boundaries. You are certainly bound for heartache, heartbreak, and heartburn! Especially if there is a married couple involved. Be smart, open, honest, fully dedicated, and loyal.
Being bisexual means that one is attracted to both genders, it doesn't necessarily mean equal attraction and it doesn't lead to infidelity. So reassure yourself in that knowledge. He married you, he loves you, just because he's also attracted to men doesn't mean he cares any less for you.Threesomes can be a spectacular addition to a relationship, the sex is usually quite fun, it's enjoyable visually, it's a thrill, all of that. However, I very tangible benefit from them is the relationship dialog that must occur to enter into a threesome from a healthy perspective. It adds depth of communication to your relationship and maturity of views. This can have resounding benefits throughout the entire relationship.
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